Date Night – Important to a Lasting Relationship?
- Topic:
Couples
- Article By:
Sherri
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Let's admit it, dating is Fun! It's an adventure. Sometimes you will find yourselves acting like kids having the time of your lives, other times you may find yourselves in the most romantic of situations, and still other times you may find yourselves having the most meaningful conversations ever – from business, to family, kids, the future, etc. Whatever it may be, just having that time to separate yourselves completely from the day to day norm and to be able to spend it with someone you care about is fun, refreshing, and needed!
So why do so many of us seem to let it slide as we grow into a relationship? ...Why ever stop dating?
I think for so many, myself included, that the day to day challenges can quickly move in and take over if your not careful. Reuben and I literally spend 24/7 together and still feel we need/want a Date Night. That time together just the two of us, to get dressed up and get out of the house, away from the business, emails, housework, chores, and kids (our son and his friends) for just a little while ...time to focus on ourselves and each other. And I've got to say that when we do make it happen, it is so refreshing. It's like literally pressing the RERESH button on life.
It's so easy to let life guide you, instead of you guiding life, especially when you are in a long term or committed relationship. You do get comfortable with each other and sadly can take each other for granted, whether you intend to or not. How many of us always seem to be able to make time for our friends or family members when they need or want something from us, but when it comes to our own personal relationship it tends to get put on hold?
Just because he or she is sitting by you on the sofa every night or laying next to you in bed every night doesn't mean that neither of you could use, or wants, more of each other. If there is someone in your life that is always sitting by you on the sofa and sleeping next to you at night, they are the ones who should be first in your life. The one who gets first dibs on you and your "free" time. ...Just because you found "the one" doesn't mean the work is done.
God gave us a million things to do on this planet, it's up to us to go out there and explore them. When we first start dating we are always looking for new and interesting things to do together, why stop now? I can honestly say that I enjoy dating my husband so much more than I ever enjoyed "dating". He is literally the best friend I have ever had (male or female). And who better to explore the world with than your best friend right? We have a million and one things in common so we enjoy most of the same things, and the few things that we don't have in common we enjoy as well. They become topics for conversation, discussion, and even playful arguments. (You can get to know a lot about a person by the things you don't have in common as well!)
Taking that time to regularly REFRESH together deepens that bond that you've worked so hard to develop in the first place, and reassures you of your love and commitment to each other. And in a society that is intent on proving all relationships will eventually fail, it's important to continue to build on your relationship. To never allow yourselves room to forget why you fell in love, why you are still together, and why you will not become yet another statistic.
Not all relationships have to eventually end. Not every man or every woman will eventually get sick of you, grow tired of you, and all of a sudden find themselves no longer attracted to you. These things don't just eventually happen. They happen over time and more often than not they happen because people and couples allow them to happen – yes even to themselves.
For any long term relationship to last there are a few must haves, some of which are commitment, communication, sex, and time (Date Night!). So, whether your Date Night consists of dinner and a movie (out or at home), a day at the beach, shopping for bedroom furniture, or even a nice long drive, you need to make time for just the two of you, and on a regular basis.
Put your relationship first and foremost, especially if you are in a long term or committed relationship and you will notice LASTING results!
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