Fathers - Why So Important?
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With so many people disregarding the role of the Father in family life today, we thought it would be a good idea to remind people of exactly what a father's role involves and just how important they really are to our families.
The role of a good father involves:
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- Being involved in the day-to-day lives of their children.
- Showing their children that they love them and that they will always love them.
- Showing their children that they are important to them.
- Supporting their family mentally, emotionally, financially, socially and spiritually.
- Disciplining with love and respect and to the proper degree for each child.
- Spending quality time with their children on a regular basis.
- Being a good example; a role model.
- Teaching and preparing their children for the requirements and responsibilities of adulthood.
- Teaching their children right from wrong.
- Protecting their children from harmful influences and potentially harmful associates.
- Showing support to the child's/children's mother.
- Providing a secure and stable environment.
Why it's important for a father to be involved.
In addition to a child's mother it is just as important to the health and well being of our children that their father be involved in the above roles.
A father has a unique role that a mother no matter how well intentioned cannot fill. For example: as our sons are developing from boys into men it is important for them to have a positive example of what a man should be, as well as someone to take an active role in teaching them what it takes to be a good man, boyfriend, husband, and father. Who better to do this than their own father?
Children who grow up with involved fathers are also more likely to do better in school, to have less trouble with the law, have better relationships with others and to have higher self-esteem.
Fathers and Mothers together - a powerful force.
"Fathers ought not to be compared to mothers, nor should they be considered "assistant mothers." Mothers and fathers interact with the child in unique and different ways. These roles are not equal or interchangeable, each makes its own contribution. " – Why Fathers Are Important – How a relationship with Dad can change a child's life – Joan E. LeFebvre
A father and a mother will usually have different parenting styles, offering support and discipline in different ways. For example, when a father disciplines he is more likely to discipline with rules. Mothers on the other hand tend to be more sympathetic… Fathers run the risk of being rigid and predictable and mothers run the risk of continual bargaining and being taken advantage of.
As a partner, fathers can provide balance in the development and disciplining of their children. And when both parents support each other and work together they are able to reach more balanced decisions.
Parents who work together also have the opportunity to set a positive example of what a healthy relationship can be. How parents interact with their child's mother or father will affect the way their son or daughter interacts with someone of that gender later on in their own lives. If our sons see their father treat their mother with love and respect they will learn respect for woman and are more likely to see woman as equals rather than objects which belong to them. If our daughters see both of their parents setting a positive example of a healthy relationship, then they are more likely to have positive feelings toward men, to trust them, and to treat them with respect as well.
What you can do.
Being a father is both a privilege and a responsibility all fathers should cherish. If you are a father and it is lawful for you to do so, please do your best to be a part of your children's lives. You at least owe them the effort. There may be circumstances beyond your control that may keep you from your children, but you should never give up trying. If there is something that you need to take care of personally in order to be part of their lives, then you shouldn't put it off another day. Do your best to have a full share in you children's lives… if nothing else your children will at least know that you never gave up on them.
And mothers please, if your child's father is a good man, he isn't a danger to their well being, and he wants to be involved in your child's life, please allow him to do so; he deserves it just as much as we do.
"In sum, fathers are important! They are not supplements or "add-ons" to child development, they are an integral part of a necessary package for healthy growth." – Fathers Are Important – Dana H. Davidson
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